Always invisible to people

Diagnosed Sz or Sza
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Journeyed to see my mum after her operation she had a week ago. I dislike going in the car and that is awful for me with anxiety. When i got there its just us and hubby, she talks none stop about herself as usual for 30 mins and doesnt ask me anything and i can’t get a word in anyways. Then her friend shows up from the church and im completely invisible. The two of them chat none stop i might as well not be there?

In the end i left with hubby driving me home safe and sound. I dont like being around anyone other than hubby it makes me uncomfortable and i have little to say, im a very quiet person all my thoughts are internal and im not much of a talker its easier for me to write things down. Even on the phone im quiet. Mum doesnt seem to make any effort with me she must know what im like?

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Feeling invisible stings, especially when it’s your mom. I used to be invisible too, but now I jump in and speak up without being asked questions in order to not be invisible. I interrupt to be honest but then once I’m talking my family hears me and I end up being “seen”, being part of the conversation. Try jumping in. Once you start talking your mom and others may want to hear what you have to say

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I dont have anything to say thats the thing i become mute

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Hubby is the only one i can talk to a little but it stresses me out when he talks too much

I feel im very introverted and internalize everything. I have always been like this. Its hard for me to make any convo

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Maybe your mom accepts that about you so to make you comfortable she just talks the whole time.

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Yes i messaged her and explained, she said her and dad understand how i am and love me anyway

I used to enjoy working in a call centre because i had to read a script mostly saying the same things it suited me lol

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I’m glad you talked to them and worked it out

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Thanks lily for helping :smiling_face:

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Anytime @Ducky :slight_smile:

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I think its anxiety making me unable to speak to other people and i can’t think of anything to say , when i do think of something its a struggle to get my words out. Im like this with everyone except hubby. Even hubby makes me anxious if he’s too chatty

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Does anyone else struggle with social anxiety like this finding it hard to speak in certain scenarios?

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I’m the same; I have trouble being around people. I thought my mom was part of a God cult and that she never dies. Newsflash none of that is true. I get delusions around everyone, they come and go.

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I did growing up. My first job I never spoke to anyone. Mind would just be blank and never knew what to say. I fixed it by forcing myself to talk, keeping up to date on events and culture, and now I can talk for hours. Not everyone would listen but just keep trying.

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my wife says I never talk to her…I guess it’s partially true…I can never think of anything to say so it ends up my wife doing all the talking…I listen…that’s what I do.

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I never have anything to say or add to a conversation either. My husband does all the talking in our relationship.

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I struggle to initiate conversation.

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