# I need a partner but Im not a great person **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [September 13, 2026, 2:08pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792 "2026-09-13T14:08:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:08pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/1 "2026-09-13T14:08:14Z")
But I’m fat and crazy 🤣 Sexually confused slightly Not the smartest Rocky past(to say the least) And can be negative…at least in my mind Today I realized I’m still a little lonely. My mom is at church so I can’t message her .. there’s not many people to talk to on the forum and my kids and siblings are too busy for me I wish I wasn’t a 💩…then I could have someone to talk to lol I’m not shitting on myself …just saying I have issues ---
**Author:** ![Schizbro](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/schizbro/32/16560_2.png) [@Schizbro](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Schizbro)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:14pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/2 "2026-09-13T14:14:26Z")
I go back and forth between wanting a relationship or sex and being how I am alone. I like being alone, always have. As I said before desires are never fulfilled until you actually overcome them not by feeding them. Sure if there is someone you love shoot your shot, but if there’s not I’d try to overcome desire until love finds you… ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:15pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/3 "2026-09-13T14:15:33Z")
Wise words bro… I think the buddha would agree lol ---
**Author:** ![Vaiana](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/vaiana/32/1879_2.png) [@Vaiana](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Vaiana)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:30pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/4 "2026-09-13T14:30:53Z")
Even if you’re not perfect, I think it’s possible to find someone You just need someone that would accept you like you are ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:45pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/5 "2026-09-13T14:45:16Z")
Thanks @Vaiana …I think it’s a bare possibility but pretty unlikely. I guy even if I don’t find a woman I can maybe get some friends in the long run. As I’m starting to realize…not everyone will treat me horribly 🥰 ---
**Author:** ![Raptor\_Z](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/raptor_z/32/14830_2.png) [@Raptor\_Z](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Raptor_Z)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:51pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/6 "2026-09-13T14:51:55Z")
Find fat and crazy women.sexualy confused not the smartest like you. ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 2:54pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/7 "2026-09-13T14:54:35Z")
That’s what my therapist says … ---
**Author:** ![yinyang](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/yinyang/32/14062_2.png) [@yinyang](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/yinyang)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:03pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/8 "2026-09-13T15:03:04Z")
There is a sub-category in the field of Psychology called, “love & relationships”. So basically, the majority of human beings desire companionship with a significant other which usually leads to marriage and offspring. Humans are social mammals that need interaction with other human beings whether they be family or friends. Schizophrenics are often isolated & alone due to the stigma of the disease as well as the behavioural traits & attitudes of those with this mental health issue. ---
**Author:** ![WONDERER](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/wonderer/32/69_2.png) [@WONDERER](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/WONDERER)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:05pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/9 "2026-09-13T15:05:06Z")
We all got our baggage, issues, negative things about ourselves… But there’s got to be positive things about each one of us as well. ---
**Author:** ![Mars](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/mars/32/4869_2.png) [@Mars](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Mars)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:05pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/10 "2026-09-13T15:05:58Z")
I’m lonely but I was crazy. ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:10pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/11 "2026-09-13T15:10:42Z")
Yea ..there is positive in everyone too. I guess I really should spend more time developing the good instead of whining about my issues 😅 Like I said I didn’t mean to sound like I was downing myself …it’s just something that crossed my mind today. “I’m lonely” ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:17pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/12 "2026-09-13T15:17:07Z")
Yea man .. it’s definitely the schizophrenia and other mental health issues that made it difficult to socialize or find a companion. I use to be happy with a very small social circle and a girlfriend but now …I’m alone 99.9% of the time and it’s not the healthiest. I guess the forum helps but it has its limits … I think I will try to win the lottery and buy a ai girlfriend in 10-20 years 😒🫠🤣 ---
**Author:** ![WONDERER](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/wonderer/32/69_2.png) [@WONDERER](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/WONDERER)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:44pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/13 "2026-09-13T15:44:01Z")
No problem @tarnishedLotus We also all have our self-loathing moments as well I’m sure 😅 ---
**Author:** ![Raptor\_Z](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/raptor_z/32/14830_2.png) [@Raptor\_Z](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Raptor_Z)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:44pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/14 "2026-09-13T15:44:32Z")
Can you create great person of yourself? ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 3:48pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/15 "2026-09-13T15:48:56Z")
I don’t know man .. I’ve been trying for years to better myself. I’ve made progress but not enough to attract a female..I don’t think. Maybe in a few years I will be stable enough but it’s hard to believe right now ---
**Author:** ![77nick77](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/77nick77/32/147_2.png) [@77nick77](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/77nick77)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 4:19pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/16 "2026-09-13T16:19:04Z")
Well, you have some good qualities. I’m not saying you’re an as_hole but there’s all kinds of as_holes out there who have girlfriends and are getting married. If they can do it then you can do it. ---
**Author:** ![Raptor\_Z](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/raptor_z/32/14830_2.png) [@Raptor\_Z](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Raptor_Z)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 5:11pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/17 "2026-09-13T17:11:09Z")
Dont think you lack something. Its just very hard acoplishment for sz ---
**Author:** ![Hemy](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/hemy/32/15415_2.png) [@Hemy](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/Hemy)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 5:19pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/18 "2026-09-13T17:19:41Z")
> [@tarnishedLotus](#): > > I’m not shitting on myself Sure sounds like you are. Improve what you can improve and highlight your current strengths. ---
**Author:** ![tarnishedLotus](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex012/user_avatar/schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/tarnishedlotus/32/9331_2.png) [@tarnishedLotus](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/tarnishedLotus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 5:51pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/19 "2026-09-13T17:51:12Z")
Yea man …I use to be a big ■■■■■■■ too lol No days I’m far kinder and I try to be more moral but getting a chick with OCD and sz is a challenge. Like I said above I will probably have to be more stable before I give it a shot. ---
**Author:** ![jukebox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b487fb/32.png) [@jukebox](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/u/jukebox)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2026, 9:08pm UTC](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792/20 "2026-09-13T21:08:22Z")
talk to yourself in the mirror why you think you are worthy…listen to yourself…you will gain confidence if you encourage yourself in the mirror…I do it…it really helps me…i found both of my wives online. one on an older version of this sister site and then on plenty of fish dot com . free dating service. [Next page](https://schizophreniasupport.discourse.group/t/i-need-a-partner-but-im-not-a-great-person/8792.md?page=2)