Has anyone found ways to stop caring so much about what friends/family/randoms think of you? Especially when theres no proof of what they are thinking? Like half of my brain power while around others is spent on putting myself in thier shoes watching me and imagining what they think, if that makes sense. Its exhausting. I have no idea how to be myself, whatever that means. Cant act natural. Not sure if therapy helps me much. Been to a few over the years, so other than that, any ideas?
Feel like I really wanna just embrace being a weirdo crazy dude but its hard to do. Social anxiety sucks!
For me it happened on its own with age, I started to see through people more as I got older. If you can understand people more, that they are largely just like you and you stop idolizing them, you’ll start to care less. Just my experience.
I think you have to change from thinking about how they think about you to what they should be thinking. Perhaps if you can see that there is a way of treating people you can drop the thoughts about what they might be thinking. Love, forgiveness and compassion should be above all. If people are thinking the wrong way just forgive them as you can only manage your own behaviour.
I try not to let others define who I am as a person other times it gets to me when I think others are judging me or laughing at me then I care other times not so much but here lately been letting other people get to me or inside my head wondering if their talking bad about me or laughing at me and making fun of me or just judging me in general life isn’t easy for us that are different we probably do get judged for our mental illness all the time js even more so than so called normal people I think
I am probably despised for the fact that I am mentally ill, but I try to ignore other peoples opinions to the best of my ability. Especially since they by and large do not care about my suffering, they can just about suck my egg for all I care.
Haven’t figured this out yet but what’s helped me is that I know that not everybody is going to like me and I’vehad to accept that. The easiest thing you can be is yourself.
i think staying joyous is a great remedy against thinking too much. They say socrates in his old age learned to play the lute and spent some time dancing and singing to the lute. Around age 70 he began doing so “as he felt an essential and aesthetic part of his life had been previously neglected”. I think it was because he was an overthinker and was trying to make himself a more balanced person, and when youre singing and having a good time your not thinking. theyre kind of opposites.
