She crashed her car (thankfully she’s okay) but wrote her car off and had to buy a new car or she couldn’t get to work and she lives rural. She’s £2000 in her overdraft and she told me she’s struggling, she didn’t ask me for money because she never does that but I hate the thought she is struggling. I’m going to send her £80 a week by standing order until end of Feb to help her out and I told her it’s a gift, she has always been there for me. I wish I would help her out more. I have the money too but I would have to ask my payee at social services who manages my disability benefits for the money which he will give me but my sister is very proud and don’t want me too. I’m happy to help her out anyway I can. Do you think I should just ask my payee for £500 and not tell her? Would this be a breach of privacy between us? she won’t find out about it…
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Wouldn’t she know when you gave it to her?
In what way would that be a breach of privacy?
She’ll know you got the money from somewhere.
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My experience with proudness is that it eventually gets thrown back as negativity. I’d say wait for her to ask directly or keep offering whenever the topic comes up. Don’t do it unless she explicitly states that she needs the help. This way, you are still caring and she is saving face
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