I ring my mum usually twice a week just to see how she is doing and show i care. I ring my dad too. Sometimes mum is very careless and cracks bad jokes that offend me. Mostly i let it slide but tonight when i said i had been in good spirits for a couple of weeks now, not suicidal thankfully. She joked oh youll be suicidal again in a few weeks when in laws have been to visit. I faked a laugh. Then an hour later i thought she is really bothering me and i dont want to be hurting over this. So i rang her and asked why she made insensitive joke. They never ring me btw. I said i was ringing her and being kind to her. She was all shouty at me , said why cant i take a joke? Shes sick of hearing about mental illness for years? Everytime i ring her, she said, i ring her back asking what she meant? She said shes sick of it and not bother ringing her, ring dad or sister instead she said.
Im not like that at all she was completely exaggerating stuff. She has always been really insensitive person so im not ringing them, dont want to see them either im really upset and had enough, i dont need that
Suicide is not a subject to joke about like that. Using it in self deprecating humor is one thing but directing it at someone else, especially someone with mental health issues, is something to avoid.
Some people aren’t even okay with it as a part of self deprecation and I get that. With some people it’s hard to tell if they’re joking.
My mum doesnt like to be opposed but i clash with her im like my dad, except i have more backbone, my dad is spineless and never stood up to her when she abused me growing up. Im just sick of them now all theyve done is hurt me over and over again
I just feel lkke going into hospital i feel a mess now she has hurt me all my life and all her fake friends rally around her because shes had a bunion removed from her foot. They dont know how she is with me. They dont know anything. Im not living in same town as family so im distant thankfully. I’ll be okay im just really sick of this
Don’t let the pain and toxicity absorb you. Let it run over your arms and fingers and focus on the thoughts that make you happy. Maybe journal what you want to say and then burn it.
Good idea. I just get angry , upset, cry by myself, want to run away but theres nowhere safe to go? Im here in the flat where its warm and safe. Hubby is trying to sleep. He loves me is loyal and gives me time im fortunate what i have, i shouldnt throw it away? I feel spineless like my dad but im not ive neen a survivor my whole 48 yrs on this planet. There are beautiful, worthwhile things in this life gotta just hold on
Yes think of the anger and hurt as water. Feel it slide off your shoulders , down your arms and splatter in the air. Slowly breath and count slowly while you do this. It will help.
@Ducky , you got great advice from @sweetpotatopie . I’m glad you have and are able to recognize your support from your husband . You are not alone. It’s still very painful and difficult to deal with, but it’s not hopeless. Don’t give up.
Ducky, I am so sorry your mom was insensitive to your struggles with mental illness. She obviously can’t relate to you and instead it eases her conscience to joke about her own daughter. That is so wrong.
I wish I had a solution for you but I don’t know what to say. Here’s an internet hug for you.
I texted her & she texted back , all is okay but i said to her im not saying anything mental illness related any longer, wont be saying everything anymore.
for you.