Valentine’s Day will be the second date

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Guys I need help! My second date with the guy is on Saturday which just so happens to be Valentine’s Day. Not on purpose it just happens to be my Friday of my work week so I can be out later.

Now for my question, do I do a Valentine’s Day card or something? I was contemplating getting a card and making homemade brownies but I don’t want to seem like I’m trying too hard but he told me he was gonna do something for me for Valentine’s Day so I want to reciprocate.

I really like this guy I don’t want to screw things up. What are your thoughts? Is homemade brownies and a card way too much at this point? Do I skip the card and just have brownies in a neutral sort of sense?

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oh nice this is exciting; i would say a card would be alright. most important is your presence :wink:

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I don’t think he needs anything. If you just show him love that’ll be all he wants.

It’s actually better if you don’t get anything cuz then you come off as if you’re a little hard to get.

But then be really nice

That’s my advice

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I don’t want to seem hard to get? Or am I supposed to? I’m just trying to be upfront with this guy I don’t want to lead him on to someone who is not me being myself

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I’m just saying if you contain yourself and you don’t make him anything like baked goods that he might interpret it as you being a lady who is hard to get not as you being mean or something, especially if you’re just nice to him when you’re on the date.

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Maybe I’m just dumb when it comes to relationships but I still don’t understand this.

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No you’re not supposed to seem hard to get. If you’re interested show interest. That’s my 2 cents.

If someone played hard to get with me I’d chalk it up to them not being interested and move on.

Make a cute card or get a cute little trinket, just avoid anything too romantic or that shows investment not appropriate for a second date.

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I personally think if he said he’s getting you something…

You should make the brownies.

I would make the brownies, and skip the card.

Idk, the card gives off too serious of a vibe to me.

But the brownies are chill and a nice gesture :hugs:

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I guess I’m alone thinking that women are attractive when they’re hard to get :face_holding_back_tears:

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I appreciate everyone’s input but I’m still clueless. Haha I’m leaning towards the brownies

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Just saw you want to make brownies, that’s a super solid choice. A lady made me brownies on our first date and she was a wonderful girlfriend, an ex I still catch up with once every six months. Life had different plans for us, but I thought brownies on the first date was very thoughtful.

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Well I’ve decided on making brownies, no card just homemade brownies from scratch, the same recipe I’ve been making since I was 8 years old. They’re seriously so good

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oh making the brownies is a nice touch…wish someone would make me brownies…haha don’t fret about being hard to catch…he likes you, you like him…go with it.

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Brownies and a card sounds like a great gift :slight_smile:

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That reminds me of the time I was a delivery driver and someone gave me a brownie as a tip and I was so scared that I just ate a pot brownie

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I’m terrible at relationship so I’m not saying anything but good luck

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I hope you’ll enjoy your date

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I think making brownies is a good idea and giving him a card. I gave my mom a Valentines day card today.

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I’m so hopeful and curious how the date went! :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:

Update us when you can!

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Hope the date went ok :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: