Why am I Soo selfish?

I’m a really self-centered person. I’ve been that way since my early 20s. This issues isn’t about abuse or sz but I became a genuinely selfish guy early in life.

I’m not beating myself up too much about it but I feel like it’s yet another thing I have to fix. At what point do you give up and just accept your flaws lol self self-improvement is never ending

I sent one of my songs to my mom today and she listened to it and said it took her away from her job stress for a few min… All I could think of .. besides the OCD was if she liked my song but I wasn’t as interested in the fact that she really enjoyed it. This isn’t always the case .I think I’m just getting to a point where my music is listenable but I don’t like being selfish.

Again I’m not trying to focus on negativity…I guess I’m just venting.

I’m gonna try to keep in mind other people when I make my music from not on tho lol :joy:

Have a Great day!!! If…u don’t hate me

3 Likes

well at least you see your flaws…most self centered ppl never figure it out…good for you…

3 Likes

Yea…I’m not blind to my flaws at all…just don’t know how to heal myself

1 Like

I try to be selfless as a spiritual rule…love your neighbor as you love yourself…simple.

2 Likes

What’s your metric for determining how selfish you are? Do you think everyone’s selfish? How rare is it to be selfless? Those are my questions for you

2 Likes

I guess I get what your saying brotha… Honestly I don’t really know. I guess if I had to answer I would say…I’m more selfish than I want to be?

I know all of the illness /abuse stuff has warped my perception but I was more selfish than my parents and mlall my girlfriends … I feel like other people are as selfish but maybe not ?

You sound like my therapist btw lol

She thinks my self image and idea about others is distorted but I think I’m also..out of the norm

1 Like

Try to think of it logically; why do u think u are selfish?

1 Like

I’m always thinking of myself interests and don’t always consider other people

2 Likes

I dunno but i think its a stressful life wen u r always super considerate or me or anyone.

Life should be happy.

Its good to be considerate how sees fit imo :slight_smile:

But over thinking it is stressful :grimacing:

I find youre okay. Thinking of own interests is healthy. U are just filling the cup u are given to b responsible for.

3 Likes

Thanks Zoe…that means a lot.

1 Like

Welcome!! @tarnishedLotus

1 Like

Omg… yesterday I was drowning in OCD thoughts/emotions…thank you guys @Zoe @FreeLunch

It’s Soo hard to not be confused by how toxic my mind is but when I come out of it it’s obvious that most of it is intrusive. . . Felt like punching myself in the face yesterday lol

2 Likes

If you were selfish you wouldn’t ask if you’re selfish.

2 Likes

Everybody thinks of self to a certain degree. I think that’s ok as long as you balance it with trying to be considerate, kind and compassionate.

Maybe it’s not as bad as you think, but if you try to change don’t beat yourself up if you don’t feel you sucseed at once. Changing can be a long process. And everybody makes mistakes, even in this department. Nobody is flawless. Humans are imperfect, we can only try to do our best.

1 Like

Yea …I’m trying hard not to be myself up but there is a lot of things I could beat myself up about .

I definitely try to balance it but most of it is in my mind. I’m sometimes selfish to other people but not a huge amount.

I think what I really disliked is how selfish I am in my head. Anyways ..I think it’s true we all have to give ourselves a break and accept imperfections… Seems reasonable lol

I was reading this quote from the founder of an eastern spiritual path …and he basically said no one is wholly praised or blamed . I took it at face value but also to mean we are not perfect..

Anyways .. thanks for the encouragement man. Hope your doing good …no pun intended lol

1 Like

Dont punch yourself lol

Sorry to hear about the OCD thing, i hope you can recover for good

1 Like

To late… I’m now snagatooth lol :joy:

1 Like

@POET @sweetpotatopie

Can you change my tag line to

Wish to be a true chariot master

1 Like

sure man 434534

1 Like

done 498534059834

1 Like