Even without religious reasons for remaining monogamous, having multiple partners often causes problems with couples for various other reasons. STD’s and jealously among them.
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What’s the point of getting married if she were to cheat and she always said that she would leave me first before cheating but I don’t believe that after I caught her on her phone
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Yeah, I don’t know anything about your situation other than what you’ve expressed so I have no idea whats going on there, but when you get married and commit to each other, unless there is an agreement as to otherwise, there is an expectation that you will remain committed to each other and not just go sleep around with everybody under the sun.
Now some people have “open marriages”, but most people that get married have an expectation of monogamy, and when one of the people violate that trust, you cant be surprised when the other half is not pleased.
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My family and had supported her as she doesn’t have to go to work but I am trying to say how can she still cheat if we did everything of her.Now my only fault is forgive and hoping that she would change,also not asking her for divorce
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She also said that she is open while mine is close when I caught her and confront her.After that day I went to my father and said I wanted a divorce and he said it’s not easy to divorce and if she is caught once more we would kick her out
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you should talk to her directly. its your wife, openness and honesty expressing concerns is crucial in a relationship, your father cant run your marriage for you, and a schizophrenia forum is not the best place for figuring it out either
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Yea sorry in the first place,like I said I did confront her before and she deny and insist she is a victim.Anyway,this thought is running through my mind even when things are going smoothly and less stress.If I ever talk to her regarding this,she would get mad or cry which will make me guilty,does this make sense.Sorry
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Define “sexting”. What things did she write?
The other person was sending nude lesbian photo of maybe her and other person to my wife and my wife was flirting and sex talking with her on Facebook messenger.After we quarrelled about this issue,I still see the other girl messaging my wife but those messages disappear,like I cannot see yesterday chat and past chat my wife had with this girl.
The lesbian photo nude and other sexting flirting messages she did with other was the breaking point.After the breaking point,the other girl still message her or the other way round,but the messages is either deleted or disappear.
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A lesbian photo? Of 2 women doing sexual things? Or just nudes?
Women do sometimes message eachother these things, particularly if there is a body concern. Its not automatically lesbian.
And the messages? Your wife is saying she wants to do sexual things with other women/men?
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Ok. Here’s my opinion
If there’s no trust, the relationship can’t go on. You either need to let it go and move forward with the relationship, or end the relationship.
In other words, if you can’t forgive her and stop ruminating about it, then the trust is broken and the relationship is over. In this case you should get a divorce.
If you want to be with her, you need to stop constantly bringing it back up - both to yourself and others - forgive her, and put effort into rebuilding trust and love within the relationship. If you choose this route, you really need to stop bringing up the past.
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I took back a girl who cheated on me. She eventually left me for an older man who made more money. I’m better off.
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I think I would divorce her. She obviously has no remorse. She seems ungrateful if a man took care of me I’d definitely not cheat on him. I would keep the house, clean and iron his shirts if he took care of me.
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You need to talk to a therapist or someone who is a spiritual leader in your life. We cannot help you.
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I honestly think that the issue is that you guys can’t communicate. You clearly have trust issues. I don’t know. I wouldn’t advocate for a divorce so quickly. Maybe see a marriage counselor?
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Yeah, I kinda agree with you. They need to talk to somebody really wise.
It’s hard to be alone, but it doesn’t seem like there’s a good side to the relationship. It depends on what you can live with.
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This 
counsellor first.
I know being alone is very hard,but my situation is not easy also just like everybody else
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She gets very angry fast,I wonder if she have too many things she’s hiding hence this
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