Cut a long story short my hubby has told them because the 15 yr old in flat below is having severe issues, paranoia and dx adhd. So my hubby has told 2 neighbours about me. I am starting to think this was really bad idea . I said to him i didnt want anyone knowing? He betrayed me. Before this they just thought it was mh issues? Nothing specific ugh 
happened Thursday night
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I tell everyone…invite them to read my book…it probably won’t affect you but I’m sorry he told them that when you wanted it private…sorry.
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Its not good
Oh man. You need to sit him down for a heart to heart or write him a letter explaining how this affects you. He should not have told them without getting your permission.
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I’m fuming now. Ive had other things to deal with this week and now this. What if im now known as the schizo upstairs? This ain’t good for my mh
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They have a long history with you to let them know your true character. I think because of that they’ll be ok and so will you.
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My Mom at the time told our female neighbor about my bipolar disorder without my permission.
We lived in a townhouse at the time and the older neighbor treated me with lots of suspicion since my Mom told her about my bipolar disorder without my permission.
It really made me upset.
But my Mom was always too trusting
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I’m so sorry, @Ducky. I would be really, really upset too. I think telling the neighbor you have are prone to migraines or can’t have sugar is one thing, but mental illness is, unfortunately, highly stigmatized. Because of this, I think you have to use an abundance of caution. Besides, it honestly wasn’t his place to say anything about it. I know he’s your husband, but that’s not right.
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@Lilyofthevalley @Honeysuckle @Wave ive lived here 8 and half yrs, ive only ever said hello. Barely anything else. Im a very private person. I feel worried about any repercussions from this, i dont know what i’m going to do? Move somewhere else idk
Yeah its bad. @Wave sorry that happened to you
@Honeysuckle yes i feel deeply betrayed by hubby rn
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I’m so sorry about this. You really need to have a heart to heart with him and also discuss damage control if necessary.
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He made a big public spectacle of us in hospital too hubby did. He was complaining about my sz to doctors and nurses and that there was some confusion about me getting referred to the right clinic
Idk hubby is really annoying me
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Its too late @Lilyofthevalley he’s f…ked up big time. Im paranoid about things as it is he’s just made everything worse
It sounds to me like he’s frustrated and looking for empathy, support and attention in general. The problem is that it’s at your cost. I’d recommend joining NAMI, where he can talk to other family members of seriously mentally ill. But he should stop making it public knowledge
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Yes your right he is looking for support, empathy and attention, he needs people more than me. I think he’s struggling with that. But i’m a recluse. He doesnt realise how bad what he’s done is for me
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Please refer him to support groups like NAMI. It will be hugely beneficial to him (and therefore you)
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I’m extremely private around my neighbors
I avoid contact or even saying hello from far away if I can help it.
I understand you @Ducky
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All my neighbors know I’m schz from when I went to the psychward my mom needed help and told them. I told my mom I’ll go to urgent care instead of the psychward and stay home. They all talk to me normal. One asked me for help hooking up his smart tv and DVD player. I could care less if everyone knew. It doesn’t define me.
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That’s a very good point @2Waynez it doesn’t define us and 8+ yrs here ive never caused any problem for anyone. Hopefully this will be ok, fingers crossed
@Wave who do you live with atm? Thanks for understanding
Thanks @Lilyofthevalley i live in uk will tell hubby to look if theres anything around here
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I live by myself currently @Ducky
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Are you managing ok? I hope so