Are you comfortable with spending a large chunk of your time alone? I mean like every day for a week with no human contact except maybe a food courier or a neighbours greeting.
I don’t know if I can ever be comfortable with so much time alone. I think it affects me in terms of presenting as a linger depression which in turn reduces my social confidence and thinking on my feet.
How do you feel about spending so much time alone? Do you want to change it? Have you tried to change it? Did you also run into obstacles that demotivated/demoralise you?
I am comfortable being alone. I guess in some ways I would like an ideal companion, but I am not an ideal companion myself. It’s nice to have others around as momentary breaks in isolation, but I find others company not very fulfilling. People can be very annoying and aggravating in so many ways. When alone one idealizes company and vice versa. If you want friends you should pursue them but the chances of living that sitcom life is unlikely, both being alone and with others is potentially mundane.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I guess I should focus more on the positives - the Independence is something I always wanted as a boy.
Now that I’ve quit smoking for good. I’m considering short trips to pass time. And to spend time with new people , not with the intention of making lifelong friends necessarily.
In the mean time. I guess it’s true, the grass is not greener whichever side you’re on.
I understand. When my maternal grandmother passed away. The maternal side became very distant from my mother and us. Which then made her more lonely and affected our family home. It happens to many but it’s still really sad
I like being alone in the day to do what I want, but I don’t like it at night because I get paranoid and lonely. I put up with hubby in day but love his presence at night.
I can’t handle it. I don’t need a lot of people, and I don’t need a lot of attention throughout the day, but I do need meaningful interaction quite often.
Nah not necessarily… its nice, maybe the nicest thing to experience, but theres a certain limit to enjoying it especially as you get older and on these medications. Most people even in good health at a young age only engage in intimacy briefly. Once a man climaxes he is usually uninterested until his refractory period is over… but that also depends on the willingness of the partner to continue too. Anyway a lot of our desires come down to irrational instinctual drives or whatever, fulfilling them do not necessarily improve our lives in the long run significantly. It’s just a constant struggle of being unfulfilled, chasing fulfillment, maybe achieving it, however briefly and then repeating. In terms of the touch of another person, someone who has that will often cheat with another person… its unquenchable, cannot be totally fulfilled. Desire is endless. If we could we would become obese on friendship, a limitless appetite.
@Schizbro Having a person of the opposite gender to talk to during the late evening in bed. Sharing your inner thoughts through talking face-to-face. Asking for feedback & their opinion knowing they have your best interest at heart. I am describing a couple loyal to each other which has a highly likelihood of leading to marriage.
Definitely, that’s a idyllic picture… over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Almost every single one of those times and a lot of marriages that continue are not defined by picturesque nighttime snuggling and pillowtalk. It’s more like STFU and GTFO.
