I told my wife I need more interaction between us…she stays in her bedroom 24/7 most days and I am left alone in the house just petting my dog for comfort…it gets to me…she thinks I’m trying to argue…I wish I felt like she needs me more…she says I’m here with you all the time. but that’s just because she’s in the house…when I start going in her bedroom more than a couple times she complains…am i being unfair? what do I do?
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it gets old…I have trouble talking to her because I am relatively a very quiet person and have trouble initiating convo…she says I never have anything to say and I guess that’s true…i still long to interact with her though…I’m sorry you and hubby are like that too..it’s very sad to me tonight as I sit here typing this.
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yes here it’s that way too…she does things for us as far as cooking and cleaning…I know her back hurts a lot so I’m glad for the help she does do…just seems like there’s nothing between us intimately.
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You love her still though? I love mine
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@Ducky yes deeply I love her…she is my angel…I’m crying right now…it is a helpless love though…she seems ready to throw in the towel at any moment…I love her more than she loves me I feel.
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I feel alone too. Fear my bf will make closer friends and loves deeper than mine with him.
Idk how to cope about that yet.
Dont wanna rely on unreliable solutions.
Makes me think that perhaps me and his connection shud be based on satisfaction of care instead of satiafaction of being number 1.
At the very least we are open with each other trust each other and compromise about setting necessary boundaries with others where appropriate because we do not believe in being ostracised because me and him are a team and loyal to each other.
@jukebox sorry to hear that your partner seems to be a bit dismissive that is not ideal. Something is not quite right there or balanced.
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thank you @Zoe she has a disability hearing this month…I fear she may win her disability and move in with her sister in Iowa…it’s something that could happen…she seems very unhappy but it could be just that her back has her feeling that way and not some discontent with me.
edit…I just peaked in on her trying to go to sleep and asked her if she was leaving me if she got her disability…she said no…so I feel a bit better.
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I was in a relationship where at first we were together every night. Then she wanted space and to watch her TV shows. No sex. Then we talked to each other less. We became more friends than lovers. After years of enduring going to night crying sleeping in the back room alone one day I pulled the trigger and said I’m out. I’m still friends with her today and she blames me for the end of the relationship. We became just friends and it was one of the hardest things for me to accept. It scarred me. Currently I don’t wanna be in a relationship because all of the hurt I felt from those countless nights of her being cold.
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Yes it is a coldness. It feels like he’s avoiding me in my own home mostly.
Anyway ive just confronted him about how i feel and he sat with me for an hour and we talked. He said he didn’t know i was feeling like this. He said he loves me and will start making a effort to see me more and talk. I thought that was nice so might get better
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I’m really sorry that yours didn’t work out but i can relate because it feels like were just friends me and H. I hope you find the right woman @2Waynez if you feel up to a relationship in the future
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@Ducky , i feel me and my bf are just friends too.
But we are best of friends.
And we do kiss, but no sexual activity.
I hope your connection with your hubby might strengthen.
It is nice that u two live together
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We have a strong connection. We just need to make more effort 29 yrs together is long lol
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Congratulations. Yes 29 years is a long time that is quite beautiful
Me n my bf is 3 years as of yesterday.
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Maybe you can buy her something she likes like fairy cakes or flowers, surprise her?
My h mostly talks about politics and economy but im sure you can talk about your books or art?
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3 years is good @Zoe you’ll be fine hugs
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Sorry @jukebox you still have us!
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You know me and other with our condition find it quite challenging socialize even with people who are close to us.
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I am pretty much a hermit nowadays, caused mostly by this illness. But I am used to it in a way.
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Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m sorry. I’m sorry that you’re going through this crap with your wife. It must hurt a lot.
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I think getting out in the community either with activities or volunteering would help you be able to get some of your needs met, plus you would have things to come home and talk about. She doesn’t need to do it with you. Just get out of the house and build a life worth living for yourself. It’ll make you more attractive to her. And it’ll help you feel less lonely
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