Does anyone else struggle to keep friends?

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I am only 23 and I have no friends. Last one was in high school and I stopped talking to her because of a paranoid period.

Whenever Im with someone that would be considered a “friend” in the common normal sense, I feel a deep and profound sense of uncomfort. I always end up feeling very paranoid no matter how long Ive known someone.

So I stopped having friends. Im mostly fine with aquaintences. Having to keep up with that relationship takes so much energy as well, and I just dont feel happy even when theyre nice and we do fun stuff.. Maybe Im just selfish.

Im starting to feel this paranoia with my boyfriend as well, and Im scared it will take over our relationship too. Trying to not let it win this time though

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I dont like friends

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Yeah I either get paranoid having friends over or run out of my social battery and am like can you go home when they like to hang all night. Not that I don’t like them but when I’m social’d out I just wanna be alone on my computer. Alcohol usually solved this issue but I don’t drink anymore and neither do any of my friends. I’m just a hermit these days.

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I don’t like friends either they betray you and they suck

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Yes thry just want you to entertain them or use you for something bastards

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I do well alone

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True friends are nice. The kind you can relax and be yourself with that rarely or maybe even never asks you for anything. They might be hard to come by though.

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Cause I meet people who are genuinly nice to me but I still cant keep up with that relationship because of my issues, and that I dont feel happy around them. I dont get much from that relationship other than doubt and pain so I quit. Maybe thats selfish, idk

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My last best friend ghosted me over my schizoaffective. Since then I’ve recovered to a point where I act normally, but he’s not around to see it. Sometimes I see him pop on steam but he ignores any messages I send. Kind of hard to not take it personally.

Don’t have any other friends other than family and the internet-pals I make on this forum and on EverQuest / World of Warcraft

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I will never understand people who cut contact simply because the other has an illness, like the person chose to have it. A true friend would research the illness and try to help you. Not leave you at a vulnerable point with no explenation. Im glad you found your people elsewhere though

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I struggle to keep friends away from me

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I’m still friends with some high school friends and I became friends with other people online and offline

My high school friends ask me to hang out sometimes, the last times because of my health (physical one day, mental another day) I didn’t see them for a while but I still send them messages sometimes

My online friendships are going well (even though there are people disappearing sometimes, like someone that told me he doesn’t want to be my friend anymore one year after talking a whole year together almost every day)

For the new people I met I don’t know for now if it will last

There’s one girl I met on Tinder, we went at the pride together last year but I didn’t contact her again because I was depressed the rest of summer and when it’s cold I’m scared to go outside and now I don’t know if I want to contact her because I feel like I’m the only one contacting the other every time

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Yeah, I’m the same. I cant hold friendships. I get emotional eventually and that always drags up a dominant negative set of feelings. I’m not going to be in strong remission till I can deal with negative emotions

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I don’t struggle to keep friends because I’ve never really had any friends. I have acquaintances, but not friends. Many years ago I maybe had a friend, but he took advantage of me and I think that’s part of the reason why I don’t make friends.

I heard a long time ago that we become the average of the people we surround ourselves with, so I’m really careful as far as friends go.

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I had a similar thing

Realised I was the one making all the effort

Tried out leaving it to him to contact the next time

Over 10 years and no longer waiting

:person_shrugging:

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I have my husband and a best friend we don’t talk or text much but we’re close. I can’t seem to keep anyone else as friends anyone else I don’t talk to much but for my mom and I use to look for more friends but I don’t anymore

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I dont have friends as such.

Looks like i have facebook friends but thats mostly strangers i friend requested because they are vegan or interesting .

I hardly ever see their posts and we dont communicate woth each other.

Ive been bullied most of my life.

Still get isolated , disrespected , bully vibed , excluded etc.

Also was abused and my abusers wanted me all alonr and " family" were part of it.

“family” go on holidays and dinners together and are close but i felt abused , excluded , disrespected , opressed and otber things by them.

Im beyond a scape goat and black sheep.

I never attend their holidays and dinners because i ferl disrespected snf opressed and devalued as worthless loser etc.

Why would i want be with people who see me that way and treat me that way.

My abusers hold positions of imfluence snd power and one said im going to be alone .

Said they make sure i never have good things i wanted etc

After the adult bullying and set up and nastiness i wonder if ill ever have real friends.

Been treated badly and who stood up for me …who was there for me…

Who cared…

Had ovarian cancer too.No friends visited.

I dont want to be friends with my abusers pretending it never happened n everythings fine.

I am distancing myself from “family” im uncomfortable around but see two or three of them once yr.

One i meet bit more frequently.

I tried womans social group at salvos.

They treated me different n wierd.

Tried mental health house.tbey ignored me and seemed wierd and no connrction.

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I was nice to the woman neighbor down the hall and now she claims I’m her best friend. To be fair, she is nice to me too but I don’t want to hang out with her. I am satisfied with occasional talking but I don’t want it to go further than that. But I’ve been getting more involved with her lately; don’t know where it’s going.