Humility is a beautiful thing, you guys are worrying me with some psychological flagellation. Please don’t beat yourselves up your both wonderful people.
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This is what ive been repeating during part of the meditation session
I am not superior
I am not inferior
I am not equal
I am a finite human being
With Strengths and weaknesses
With flaws and talents
Void of a separate existence
With Humility is the correct way to live
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Why not equal?
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The guy I follow says equality is still caught in comparison. When you inevitably feel like you are not equal it still causes suffering.
From how I understand it letting go of needing to be any status is closer to freedom?
Also..theres this idea of no separate existence… i think he belives that because we dont have a self independent from the rest of life that comparison is not based totally in reality. Idk if I completely buy that part but I think letting go of needing to compare myself to other people all the time might be helpful .
I do think comparisons are useful but when its really unhealthy it needs to be challenged. I found myself saying the monk is smarter than I am so I should listen and stop comparing “ lol maybe its the type of comparisons and the healthiness of it…
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What I believed while psychotic is wild.
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Interesting stuff. I don’t know if I can look past the existence of equality and I certainly don’t know if I can let go of comparison in my thinking. That’s why equality is so important to me, because of how diverse we are…because of how diverse conscious life is even…because of the seemingly inevitable comparisons that arise.
@POET says comparison is the death of joy. My grandma always said “comparisons are odious” meaning they are offensive, off putting. But for me that just means we shouldn’t voice comparison. It remains an important part of my thought and I admit I am attached to it. My thinking may be quite alien to the thinking of the dude that you’re working with.
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Man I totally get it. I think comparisons are unavoidable in life. Theyare like a natural product of value and subjectivity or something…
I definitely belive that the guy I follow is pretty wise but like my therapist and I talk about..I have to ultimately think for myself. I think trying to do away with the need to be equal might help me but I totally get the beneficial side of it too.
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Yeah I don’t know what to make of it.
On the one hand, we could do away with equality if we do away with difference.
Or we really are different and we need to be equal because of it. This is more of my thinking because of c.s Lewis and his positions on greatness. I really look up to some people for what they’ve accomplished, for their gifts, for their beauty, for their god-given talent, and hard work. If we acted like everyone was the same thing how would we appreciate the import of victory?
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That makes sense bro…
I guess at the end of the day .. for me its about finding a way to be ok in this life. I really dont know very much and ive just started trying to really understand myself and life.
With all the messed up stuff in life(myself included) I had to find someone smarter than I was to help me through. I usually just mess stuff up so I have to be super carful with my thinking.
The guy has alot of the qualities I wish I had and hes been through alot of suffering. I guess I trust that he might be able to guide me back to a better life. Sometimes the hatred and evil in the world(myself included) makes me think I cant really trust most people’s judgments so I basically just found a person I did and followed what he said.
I dont agree with everything he says blindly but I trust that I feel anyone can get me out it might be a person like him.
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I pm’d you. I want to talk about religion and politics lol.
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Bro I definitely agree with restorative over punitive. Its something I think about alot. Also.. the idea of God’s love leading to universal salvation is a wonderful thing. I just have a hard time beliving that God exists…
Ive thought about becoming a Christian multiple ti.es but I can never really belive it regardless of what I do. I feel like Buddhism.at least the kind i follow fits me a little better. I think different things for diffrent people lol
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My mother is Buddhist. She doesn’t believe in God either. Do your thing. It’s all good. Nothing but love and respect.
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Guys, lets steer the convo away from religion please. IF you want to pm, go ahead and pm, but it cant be on the public board.
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Good experience! I wish I could be humble.
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I’ve had extremely embarrassing delusions some of them I WONT talk about
Others like thinking bugs were eating my brain and thinking I could cure cancer and ■■■■ its unfortunately im a fat ■■■■■■ i feel stupid about it
The key is to take the meds and try to forget and focus on the FUTURE and find hobbies
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You’re absolutely right
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I think the teacher was saying g comparing our essential worth was wrong practice but equality of opportunity “treating everyone’s needs with respect and importance” was right practice.
Im also not sure if he was talking about just our essential worth as beings or also particular things like being a better cook than another person.
Also.sorry for the off topic comment. I just wanted to say i might have misunderstoodwhat i was saying. @Lilyofthevalley
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your a cool dude @Fisherman1992 ! you should really give yourself more credit fr!
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I took martial arts too, reached up to a purple belt in Tae kwon do. Sometimes I feel like I’m arrogant in my thoughts , just wish for my own personality back because haven’t been feeling like myself.
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Dont be so mean to yourself, you are not anything you label yourself with!
You have amazing qualities and i think you dont see that, we all care about you and we wouldnt say that to you and you wouldnt say that about us.
We treat ourselves worser than we would treat an enemy.
Be kind to yourself because you deserve it!
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