Do you have the holiday blues?
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Yes i feel lost. I lost myself. Not sure where i am.
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I’m really struggling this holiday season mentally. But also in the holiday spirit. It’s very strange. Hoping a med adjustment does the trick.
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hope you guys feel better 
i wouldnt say i have the blues but i can feel a bit of stress due to the holidays… idk why lol
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The usual thing. My wife is all BUT THE PARENTS, especially when the holidays hit. She lost her dad this summer so now it’s BUT THE MOTHER with more frantic activity behind it. We have to go to the farm for the annual crappy Xmas ritual. Nothing finer than sitting in a hoarder’s home with piles of junk covered by blankets and pretending everything is normal.
As to Christmas (I technically celebrate Festivus), if it’s not in my house with my tree and my cat around where I feel comfortable then it doesn’t count. Making me spend it somewhere I hate ruins it for me.
It was only supposed to be for 24th to 26th, coming back morning of last day but now it is being dragged out to the 29th with me being told to work from the farm that day. No one asked me if I wanted to. This is now the third long weekend in a row (every one since June) burned up for the parent(s). I don’t get to enjoy my long weekends off and it is burning me the hell out.
The final issue for me is that my wife regards her mother as my mother. She is not. She did not raise me, she does not know me, and we do not have a lot in common. She is a relation by marriage that I don’t “feel” is a relative in the way my wife and daughter are. Or even my cat. Futher to this, it was a tremendous relief to be done with parents when my mother passed and I have not ever wanted another parent in my life, so stop trying to shove in something I never asked for.
Fkkn NTs.
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@shutterbug I’m glad I’m not with my ex anymore. Every Christmas was spent with his family Christmas Day. This year I get to see my mum.
I don’t like going away from my home so spending days on end somewhere else for Christmas would really bother me too.
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Funny how that works, isn’t it?
I’m not one for traveling unless I’m in control of the environment. It’s why I prefer camping to hotels and AirBnBs (my wife’s preference). I don’t like sleeping in a shared bed or using a shared washroom. I like having “my” stuff around me, which I do when I camp.
Probably an autism thing, but it’s hard-wired and I cannot turn it off or even tamp it down no matter how hard I try.
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I have a cousin who we haven’t seen in about 7 years because he has to spend the holidays with his wife’s family
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I get the holiday blues if I am expected to host family parties, make food for everyone, make sure all the gifts are bought. I feel like it’s a burden rather than an opportunity for socializing ( which I hate)
I understand that as a mom I am supposed to be happy, social and wanting to decorate but each year it’s a struggle to get motivated to do it and my family teases me about being a grinch.
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I’m holiday neutral this year. Kind of “meh” about it, but not a Scrooge either.
Normally I’m super depressed around the holidays, or super geeked up and all in on the Christmas spirit.
I just want 2026 to come already. The holidays have been incredibly disruptive this year.
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Dumping that on “the wife” is unfair. It needs to be a shared load.
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@shutterbug Thanks for understanding what it might be like to be a full-time mom.
In my husband’s defense, he does work really long hours to support us so maybe I feel like I don’t expect him to help after he gets home from work after working a lot of overtime.
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I get that, but he can still throw in a load of laundry or lend a hand. I’ve been Mr. Mom at times. It’s a crushing load.
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