My parents really upset me and i feel like the feeling might be valid in that they dont care. Theres fours of us and parents. My mum says shes a special bond with the youngest whos 30 yrs old, there both most alike so get on. I can understand that but i feel so rejected by them in every circumstance imaginable, deeply hurt. My mum has always had a profound effect on me , maybe i should friggin forget about speaking to them it causes me too much pain
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Shes always humiliated me in front of her friends anyway, nobody should do anything like that its so not right. And she physically abused me as a young child which is unforgivable
Tbh im just so weak mentally from everything i should prob not entertain them anymore
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Sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder.
I hope there is hope 4 u and ur mom.
Mom n daughter bonds run deep.
Just know that we know u here n u not a bad apple at all 
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Thanks @Zoe but i dont think there is any going forward with my parents unfortunately.
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So sorry you are dealing with difficult parents. I think it’s always so much worse when a strained relationship is with family rather than friends.
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Hey @Ducky. I’m so sorry for you. My relationship with my parents is complicated, but I do understand how you feel. Growing up, my mom would compliment my sisters and say not-so-nice things about me. Not mean outright, just little things that cut. I was lucky not to be physically abused ever, so I won’t pretend to understand what that is like, but my heart goes out to you. Whatever you decide about your relationship with them, just know that the forum supports you and you have friends here. Internet hugs.
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You know what boundaries work for you; i respect that.
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Hubby just said if anything happened to him then i’d need my parents. Theres no way i’d need them for anything they are so triggering to me.
I’m sorry that your mum was critical of you and not the others @Honeysuckle that hurts as a child
@Vinegar my parents could never have any idea how much they upset me and ive tried to get on with them so much
I’m okay i guess its anger from a lifetime of mistreated by them
Thanks zoe, honey and vinegar for your support and understanding 
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my father abused me all my life…emotionally and physically until I left home at 18. For the rest of my life all he ever did was hurt me emotionally …horrible father…love my step dad like my real dad…both have passed…try to find peace inside with your relationship with your mom…nobody can hurt you like your own mother…I know.
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Sorry to hear that @Ducky
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Oh @jukebox yes. Im always doing better with my mental health when im taking a break from my parents so that speaks volumes doesnt it? Thankyou
And im sorry you were treated badly by your father, sending love
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