I feel like putting myself out there in dating isn’t enough to yield a romantic connection. Like when im there I keep so quiet when in group conversations. And I cant bring out playful banter either. I feel like im screwed to be single till I die and that does worry me. Ah well. I guess all I can do is keep trying
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Think positive thoughts like “I havent met the right person - yet. But someday I will. “
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Don’t go dating. Go do fun things with people who share your interests. Find a female in one of those groups and see if a connection starts there.
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You’re a man. Haven’t you noticed 95% of men are not really that attractive. But a large percentage of women are? Theres something sciency behind that. But the main thing is if you are looking for a woman: to have a job, car, well dressed, social circle and something to brag about. Appearance you can only change little, but you can pad your resume a bit more.
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Work on a passion, people are drawn to energy. Don’t give up.
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Did you HAVE to jerk your thumb in my direction as you said that?!?
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I jerked my thumb at the having a job part.
Stop looking for compliments 
lol
I have bad luck with dating im just really happy that I won’t die a virgin
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I have no luck either. Besides my computers need me.
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The nice thing about being me is that I don’t require the validation of others for my own self-esteem.
Dude it was a tongue-in-cheek jab. I’m just teasing you
I think you’re looking great for your age
@Mountain You’re still really young. Just give it time. I’m sure you’re probably sick of hearing that but you’re chockfull of hormones that are probably driving you nuts. I’m a very spiritual person but I also believe that we’re basically big balls of chemicals too.
Think of it like a director making his first film. Do you think any 22 year old really has a story to tell? I feel like there should be an unwritten law that you can’t make a film until you’re in your mid 40s or 50s.
You have to get your heart broken. Or go protest and get thrown in jail. Get a tattoo. Hang out in divebars and listen to people’s stories. Become a goddamn priest and go to South America.
Falling in love kinda follows the same trajectory. You’re not really cut out for your soulmate until you’ve gotten a few scrapes and bruises.
Hope this helps. It’s just my “wisdom” on the subject, if you may.
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I think the only options for me are going to nights out/ raves/ gigs as well as a hiking group I’m a part of n whatsapp that I haven’t contacted for a while.
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Thanks @Montezuma, I do feel like I’ve had my fair share of heartbreak. Back in 2021-22 I experienced quite a few breakups and coincidentally that also when my psychosis kicked off. Got a tattoo last year too. Haven’t become a priest yet but I think that would be counter productive lol!
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You got to think positive about yourself! Better to think positively and fail then never try it all. Without your belief intact, women will not respond to you. You have to believe in yourself
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Haha!
I was just saying in general that you have to have really lived life a lot before you’ve settled down.
I’m sorry you’ve had your heartbroken. I didn’t in any way mean to downplay any past struggles you’ve had.
Just don’t give up! Hell I’m 45 and I still feel like I have some skin in the game.
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Oh no worries man, I didn’t get that vibe from you at all 
Yeah and I get what you mean. My life experience is still forming in some ways. Maybe things will sort themselves out in time.
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