Today I left my husband and now moved in with my parents and sister and her two dogs. (we all stay in my sister’s place) I stay on the other side of the city now to where I was with hubby. My sister is moving to a country town at the end of the month and I’m going wherever my parents are going. Hopefully a lovely quiet town too, they have one in mind they want to return to, which they used to live in. I’m tired of the city and look forward to living in a smaller town. My mom said I can get a job in the library there. Or I could work in a shop…
Leaving my husband has been a decision I’ve thought about for several years, slogging along in such unhappiness. He’s a really decent man but there was too much difficulties for me to bear with his and my illnesses and our relationship was volatile and unhappy. I’m really happy now that I left, I have peace about it and a weight has lifted off my heart…It was a decision that brought me peace but nevertheless it was very hard to tell him I wanted to go. At first he was really upset and hurtful but then he became understanding and kind about it.
It was incredibly difficult packing my things in front of him!! Because I do still love him it was heartbreaking but I know I cannot be with him anymore. It’s something that was not decided lightly. I came today and am now settled in. My parents fetched me. My mom is so supportive and my dad and sister too. I feel like finally I’m around people with positive energy and it’s wonderful. For too long I’ve been drained out
I don’t know what I’m going to do about my dr appointments and meds…I’ll have to see if the place I go to with my parents has a govt clinic where I can get my meds free and see dr. It’s all unknown so far. I’ll have to call my hospital outpatients eventually and notify them to transfer my info/care to the new place. .
It is good you made this decision for your own happiness. I’m sure it was not easy. I left my partner and father of my two sons almost a year ago. I don’t regret it. I’m happier now.
I remember you have had ongoing trouble with your husband going back as far as 2019. There was some kind of religious restrictions and other things going on. I think your life will improve being independent.
@Mobc1990 no my husband doesn’t have another partner yet, nor are we divorced yet. So far it’s just a separation. The divorce must still be initiated. I’m waiting for reply from religious scholar about how to proceed with it.
In my religion (Islam) the man can divorce the woman by pronouncing the words “I divorce you” and then wife waits three months then divorce is official. But with my situation (my husband not wanting a divorce but me doing so) I will as a woman have to get my marriage annulled by appealing to a Muslim court. I’m not sure how it works yet but it is the right of a woman to be able to do that if her marriage not working out.
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