I’m not sure how the conversation even got to what it was. I I didn’t trust the man in the apartment I was repairing so I put my taiser in my front pocket. She asked me all of these questions like why I didn’t trust him. I told her I didn’t know there’s just certain men I do not trust. From all walks of life , certain men just put me on high alert. I’m not sure if it is the way they are carrying themselves when they are around me or if it’s paranoia but a lot of women feel this way (I think) when they are alone in secluded spaces by themselves. When I was dating, my dad told me to be careful because these were grown men and their love was conditional. I’m not sure if that is where it is coming from. I just don’t feel safe at work. I guess I’m on high alert because apartment complexes can attract some strange people. Or I’m just with strange people in unfamiliar territories. I thought every woman was warned not to go to secluded places, not to go out at night alone, and to walk with a buddy. I thought that was just how everybody was taught in general. Only because some people can be dangerous. It’s how I survived all these years. Something is making me feel like I’m going to go missing or get attacked. I’m not sure what it is.
What did your therapist have to say? Was she or he supportive or did you feel not supported?
This sounds like paranoia though I have to acknowledge women deal with circumstances men don’t so I don’t totally know what to say. I’m sorry you are worried! You should be allowed to carry your taser if it makes you feel safe, I think at least.
She kind of was trying to fix it but I could tell that maybe she felt the same way.
What is the level of danger in the neighborhoods you frequent, are we talking about real crime levels? Have you researched it? Has it happened to people you know? I don’t want to discount your concern without knowing where you are. But I have slept homeless countless times and only been mugged once in my sleep non-violently. I have experienced a drive by when I was in St. Louis. I had to crouch to make sure I didn’t get shot. But for whatever reason that didn’t really affect the way I behave. I don’t know. I want to say that it’s wrong to let things get to you but at the same time you have to be safe. But you can’t be concerned to the degree that you are because it becomes debilitating. I need to think about what to say. Let me think for a bit about what I can say to help.
This helps put things into perspective. I guess I’m kind of paranoid because we have a trafficking problem in that area because it’s a college area but nothing has ever happened to me in that area when I go. I think part of my paranoia comes from my dad. He would hide behind trees when I was younger whenever we would go outside at night. This happened when I was like 6. I guess he thought it was tough love but it really scared the mess out of me and I think it had an effect *on me as an adult that I would get abducted. I get what he was trying to do but jeez. I think he’s always taught me to think of the worst case scenario that’s why I’m so paranoid. Plus he was in the Navy so he’s paranoid in his own ways.
That can happen military men can raise their daughters with expectations that are unreasonable because of their concerns based on their experience abroad and in the services.
I mean there’s a lot of abuse in the services.
My friend is ex-military army stationed in Germany and he was riding in helicopters doing special ops and stuff. He’s really hardcore.
His daughter is nine I think and he’s so overprotective. It’s crazy.
Sounds very familiar
As a man, I’ve learned that the most important energy in the world is the mother and the mother is in all of us according to Tina Turner. Men need to turn away from violence and aggression and embrace the loving kindness and the generosity and the warmth of woman.
I’m sorry your father spiked you and I’m sorry that you don’t feel safe among men. It really makes me sad seriously.