Idk how I feel about this suggestion
You told them you want a kid?
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@Vaiana yes and I’m infertile and gave a child up for adoption when she was an infant
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And you don’t want to adopt ?
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Maybe you could sign up with activities working with kids. Like there are school/activities at libraries, Big Brothers and Big Sisters program, community activities for homeless children, homework help at schools, teachers aids at daycares, tutoring, etc hope this helps. It’s not the same as raising kids, but it’s a little stressful though. My heart goes out to you. You’ve got a giving heart.
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Idk I’m not a therapist and simulation may be soothing but, perhaps your just longing to be reunited with your bio daughter. Hope you can find some solutions to what your facing whatever it is.
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@POET I’m actually meeting my bio daughter and her adoptive mom on the 16th of this month the adoptive mom and I have kept somewhat regular contact and I recently video chatted with my daughter
@sweetpotatopie I have anxiety in big crowds and there aren’t many kid programs in my area
@Vaiana I wish I could but my husband has migraines that are getting worse and more frequent and I haven’t been able to stay mentally stable for a full year in over 5 years
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That’s amazing:) I’m really glad for you, you must be so happy. Yea I saw some of your other posts about it. Anyways id trust your doctor maybe they’re right. Hope all works out.
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@POET I’m not holding my breath atm and feel kinda numb about the entire thing the adoptive mom has lied about me being able to see her since I gave up my rights and I signed over all rights to her taking her at her word that I’d get to see my daughter I haven’t seen her since she was 2 years old and idk how to feel anymore I was really excited but the closer it gets the more numb I feel to it because I know there’s a chance this is just another lie
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I’m really rooting for you on this… it must be absolutely heart wrenching for you to have to go through this. Praying for you… keep your head up things are gonna be ok 
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@POET thanks I saw my therapist today and she was excited and stuff and I was…. Numb I’ve wanted kids since I was 5 and it looks like I’ll never raise a child and my daughter looks a lot like me so it’s like seeing a mini me I don’t know I’m infertile and with medical issues my husband and I can’t take care of children full time…. I’ve cried about not having my little girl over the years but now I’m kinda petrified and numb
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I see how that would be really traumatic 
being without your loved ones… wishing you all healing and peace.
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I’m really sorry twialine. I hope you eventually get to see your daughter.
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@Twialine that sounds really difficult. Im sorry you’re feeling this way. Wishing you peace of mind, whatever happens.
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Aight
I hope you’ll have a good time with your daughter
That’s good you can still see her
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I am not sure how having something that reminds you of what you lost and what you cannot have now is good for a person?
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Don’t let yourself get so numb that if you do see her you won’t be able to connect with her. I understand protecting your heart but it may be even worse than opening up to the possibility so that when you do see her you two can bond.
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@Lilyofthevalley @Vaiana @Banjo @shutterbug @jukebox @POET @sweetpotatopie
My daughter came over Monday…. It was great!
Oh btw I might get unsupervised weekends with her this summer
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How fantastic is that!? How did it go?
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@Banjo it went really well had a really great visit and might get unsupervised weekends with her in late summer and I’m really nervous about that… she’s a good girl and we look a lot alike…. I couldn’t keep my eyes off her I have missed this little girl for so very long and suddenly she was right in front of me…. It was a happy day
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