For all of you that have someone for you.
How you met your partner. For years I’m lonely
My sister is telling me you wanna partner to ruin and his life or?
I feel very unproductive, unworthy, unwell.
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It’s unfair of your sister to say that to you
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I hope you find love
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I’m 55F. I met my ex husband when we were both working retail and I was about 18 and finishing high school. He asked me out after I graduated and we got married when I was 20. Back then I was kind of a slightly tomboyish cutie pie. E were married for six years which is when I realized I was a lesbian. I found my first relationship when I was 26. We met online and then in person and ended up together for 14 years. Then in my early 40s I met my current wife on match dot Com. I was having low self esteem from the pervious woman leaving me and blaming everything my mental illness. I was gun shy. Kind of fragile. And I was pretty over weight and so there was a lot. But she still fell in love with me and we still love each other dearly. We have been together 14 years and 3 months and have been married for 12 years and almost 4 months.
So I’m just saying there’s probably someone out there for you. They just haven’t met you yet. Obviously you need to keep working on yourself and pursuing mental wellness, but try your best to feel like you are worthy. I’m not always great at that myself but I try. Because you are worthy. 
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I think you need some degree of socialization. It’s pretty obvious (you cannot find someone else if you’re alone all the time), but sometimes we don’t realize that we are not as social.
To get them out of the way, dating apps work but they are not for everyone. But they are a modern form of socialization. They are not ideal, you need to be very thick skinned for them, rejection and disappointment are the most common feelings.
In my opinion, the old “join a club/sport/institution/hobby” holds a lot of truth to it. You get to know more people this way, you get to somewat filter them to have at least one interest in common, you can know them better without the pressure of a date (it may be more natural for some people).
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I agree with the gist of what @Dreamer54 is saying
You have to put yourself out there and interact to meet people
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This might not be the best advice, but I’ve noticed having a job or volunteering is a great way to meet people. You could form friendly or romantic relationships. Easier said than done, though, as working can be stressful.
Regardless, you gotta kinda put yourself out there. It’s hard to do sometimes. I wish you good luck 
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The ‘good’ man requirement is the hard part. Men are generally more open to advances from women, than women are from men, but with good reason. Men arn’t putting themselves in a risky situation making or receiving advances. In terms of finding a ‘mr right’ loving partner… I’d go through community involvement activities or online dating… community events, church, sport events, get involved, get out and and actively interact with people. I know its hard, i dont do any of that stuff either, but meeting people or being introduced is the only way
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It’s hard out chere
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I met my husband at my job. I was a receptionist and he was a patient. We hit it off immediately. Been married almost 12 years.
I agree with everyone that you’ve got to get social in some way in order to meet someone. Try clubs, intramural sports leagues, walking groups, religious activities, volunteering, etc.
And don’t put out quickly. That’s how you get the creeps who will use you and toss you away like yesterday’s trash unfortunately
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I met both of my wifes online…first wife I met on this former site here…I wouldn’t marry another schizophrenic now…my second wife is normal…much better for me…just really, really, really get to know a man online first for a couple weeks of asking questions important to you before meeting…should be fine.
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I’m in agreement with most of what has already been said: it’s tough, and you have to get social. I, too, met my husband at work. It was nice because I got to learn about him, watch him and how he interacted with others, see his work ethic, etc before ever even going on a date. When I did finally ask him out, I was already confident in the kind of guy he was. 24 years together.
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I’ve met a lot of hot women through part time jobs & dating apps
I met my old neighbour and we shagged a bunch of times.. she always thought I was hot haha
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Decades ago when I actually dated, the girls I dated were in programs with me, lived at the same group home as me or I met in other mental illness settings. I don’t think I ever dated a normie though I fooled around with several when I was in my addiction and later on met one at a CA meeting.
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