I don’t know what to think when people smile at me a couple of people smiled at me earlier today and I am wondering why what their agenda or purpose is. Whether it’s good intentions behind it or evil?I am not used to people being genuinely nice to me is all and don’t know how to take it or react to it. I am only used to people using me and getting what they want from me or just being plain evil and mean too me and bullying me and saying mean things about me or just talking bad about me in general. My Mood is a little better but still needs work still am not where I need to be mood wise.
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I don’t know,no one smiles at me.Maybe behind my back.
Kids are smiling at me and repeat what i said. Two days ago they were mocking me.Why pay the attention ..
I’m the same way… When people are nice to me I actually start to dislike them until I know they aren’t gonna treat me bad. It’s deep deep wounds …at least in my case.
Cool thing is ..time usually tells whats up. Anyways…sorry you deal with something like this …
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I hate when ur walking down a street most people who drive by stare at me.. I feel like a celebrity. I should start waving at people who stare
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Yeah, people stare at me too I hate that as well and I wonder what their thinking and usually it isn’t good thoughts.
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yeah, that’s true I shouldn’t pay attention to people that mock me laugh at me and now stare at me and smile at me I don’t like when people do any of those things just want people to leave me alone if they have nothing but evil intentions on their mind when they do those things why come around me and do them.
thanks @tarnishedLotus yeah, its deep deep wounds for me too yeah I have been dealing with this for a very long time the stares the laughing and now smiling in my face too and I hate it but it is what it is I can’t tell people what to think of me they’re going to think what they’re going to think about me I can’t change that everyone is entitled to their opinion just wish they would keep it to themselves and stay away from me if they feel a certain kind of way about me I wish to be left alone by those kind of people but I attract them like a magnet it seems around me.
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do you spend your days alone? if so, try to get out with ppl more often…the smiles I’m sure were genuine…don’t doubt the joy that comes from a smile.
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Yea…that’s usually how it goes. I’ve been on both sides of that dynamic…so…I know what u mean.
Good thing is ..we can always treat ourselves with kindness…as much as possible …
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I agree with @jukebox ..some people break from that pattern and actually treat you kind. But others do the opposite so it’s important to be a little cautious…but I’m sure you know that lol
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I don’t trust anyone!
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I used to be really paranoid when people smiled at me too. They’re probably just trying to be friendly though. And when people stare it’s probably just because they think you look nice, or interesting. There’s typically nothing nefarious behind these things. I know sz makes us all paranoid sometimes. You have to kinda use “Occam’s Razor” with these things.
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me neither I am very cautious and my walls are always up I am always on my guard I don’t trust anyone either except God and or my family that’s it maybe my one Aunt I’m close too, but trust goes only so far with her.
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yes I know I am very cautious and my guard is always up so are my walls I dont allow people to get too close to me afriad of being hurt and being mean too part of it is my mental illness and the other part is my menopausal mood swings causing my mind to go to a dark place.
I spend my time alone and sometimes with my parents and that’s it I don’t hang out with too many other people my aunt on occasions we meet for Lunch and walking the bike path I have two friends but they dont come around much or at all or call me at all either not much of a friend but their all I have at the moment and for many years it’s been that way.
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I have been really paranoid as lately it is getting a little better but I still have a long way to go till back to myself or norm for me. I know some maybe staring for different reasons maybe they do think I look nice or Interesting or maybe it’s for a darker more sinister reason jealousy maybe or envious of me or their planning to be evil and mean towards me many different reasons why people may stare I get that or their judging me for whatever reason but I always tend to be pessimistic and think the bad before I think the good anyway I see the bad before I seee the good in people sucks to have this illness schizoaffective disorder is what I am diagnosed with and GAD General Anxiety Disorder but complaining about my illness won’t change a thing though so I need to get a grip on my mind and move on
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Hey, you summarize it pretty well, you know absolutely what is going on. But just the illness or wound that make you think so about others.
I think it takes time to heal, and keep on getting treatment, things will change for the better for you one day.
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I used to get confused when a random smiled at me in public. Would get angry about it because i assumed they were being mean or something. That was when i was super isolated for a while years ago. But the times i was in psychosis and someone smiled at me i would assume it had something to do with a grand conspiracy i was involved in.
These days im pretty sane and normal in comparison to that and just smile back and know its because they are jsut being nice or whatever.
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A large part of it is how you’re reading it. If you read it right then they’re probably being nice and friendly. But you can also read it correctly and tell they’re being mean. I get smiled at at my job at the army reserve office building and I’m aware that sometimes when people smile they’re thinking they’re superior to me but it often happens that I don’t realize it until I smile back and get an obvious reaction that shows they’re not just being friendly. I often don’t get it until I walk past them and think of what just happened. I get several friendly smiles during a typical shift but I also get superior smiles or just plain “laughing at me smiles”. It’s hard to figure out which is which sometimes but that’s part of the game.
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I can pretty much tell if its genuine or not or fake most of the time I can read a person’s expression like a book. I get a lot of looks of disgust and people avoid me like the plague when I check out at the store like their afraid of me or something others will come around and do the complete opposite smile in my face stare at me I get the occasional eye rolls and maybe I am reading too much into it I am pretty much done with people and everything negative I have ever gone through ever been just done not too angry just Done with everyone and everything that’s how I Am feeling right now. I am tired of the judgement tired of the stares tired of people trying to be nice to me which I don’t think they are most aren’t anyway. I am not used to people being nice to me when they haven’t been nice to me for many years so if someone actually was nice to me, I wouldn’t know how to react but angrily towards them.