She has LVSD with her heart. Her blood pressure is high and yesterday she had a funny turn and almost fainted. She sees the specialist on Saturday.
I’m trying to convince her to move in with me. She is working herself ragged to pay the bills on the house she has. And my sister is working herself ragged to try and get on the property market.
It would make sense for my mother to hand the house over to my sister who can take it on. And my mum move in here with me
This way neither of them will have to work as much. It’s a simple solution but my mum is kicking her heels in.
I’ve told her I’d rather have her here and have her around for another 20 years than her drop dead.
Anyway. Been so anxious through the night. I’m going to keep bringing it up and see if she changes her mind. My sister also is for this idea.
This sounds like a very sensible solution that you’ve proposed.
Perhaps one option might be to tell your mum that it’s on a trial basis, and that she could always move back on her own, if she really wanted to?
There’s also the question of who would legally own her place after she moves out to live with you (best not to discuss the details here?).
Final thought: if my mum is anything to go by, sometimes they just need a bit of time to adjust to the idea of something. Pushing them too hard just makes them dig their heels in even harder. Perhaps if your sister speaks to her, this might help?
That’s just my 2 cents worth, and I’m sorry if I’m poking my beak in where it’s not needed.
I think offering a trial period is a great idea. I wouldn’t push too hard though or she’ll fight back even if she knows you’re right. It’s just human nature.
A concern of hers might be keeping her autonomy. If she’s at your house is there a way she can have privacy and also control in her life? If so, I’d stress that.