How to get a girlfriend if you have major problems

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Just want to say that Sex workers can be beautiful and good people.

Saying Ho in a derogatory hateful manner is not ok i think.

Mary Magdalene was stoned by thr village people and it is said Jesus Yahweh (or how one pronounses )defended her and gave her respect and kindness snd compassion .

Some sex workers had hard lives and are doing best they can.

Maybe a lot of them have ptsd or difficult back gtounds.

I know a building where mentally ill males live (male only building except fpr visitors eho may only stay few hours not overnight)and most of them have sex wotkers or ladies of the night as some say visit regularely.

They only rent a small room and dont have much money but when their pension comes in a lot of them have a sex worker visit them.

Hopefully the woman are treated well.

Some are treated very well.

But there are dangers in being a sex worker.

Thats why some get protection buy that csn br disadvsntage if they get sold without consrnt or dont get paid properly but their security takes it all.

It was said that things may not be as seem and that light and perfection and perfect inperfection queen may not be as seem.

Maybe is maybe isnt.

Maybe a sex worker is Queen to someone.

Putting woman against other woman is not nice .

"Hos and Queens "ā€¦

(I had all woman and their men and ages and cultures and religions and multicultural etc bully me but still stand as stand on that).

There are horrible behaved and so forth people who would be that way whether they labelled ho or queen of whatever they still be such nomatter what seem.

I follow a guy matt on youtube who interviews sex workers.

All sorts kinda.

He is a Queer man himself.

One bought her own ranch .(was my dream to have hobby farm or ranch but i said not for sale and so ).(think against my will so theres that tooā€¦)

Yhought how many woman are sold against their will and set up and those sell them mske a fortune while woman get food and basics only.

She full on has horses and land and house etc.

Others get paid little and only enough for food and hygiene items.

Others might do drugs and spend all on that.

Maybe they are in pain and self medicating.

Some of the most horrible people i know of look and seem perfect queens and perfectly imperfect .

Some of the most awesome people may have had hate campaign by jealous ones or been enslaved or and list goes on.

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This girl Iā€™ve been texting asked me to go to London with her, I know her, idk whether to go or not

She is 51, Chinese

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i think the term ho is very deragotary yes but some ppl i wud describe as hos, i am not necessarily talking about prostitutes tho. its just the way some gals are. idk maybe they are fine.

but i see them a bit weirdo

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Of i find oneni will write her a poem lol

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Huh?

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If I find a nice girl im gonna write her a song lol

I should probably write grammatically correct sentences before I write tue song :sweat_smile: i write like im in the 2nd grade

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Yea I was thinking of updating my post but was too lazy. I donā€™t mean to denigrate sex workers I respect them to the fullest. What I meant to say was people who will use you for money. If somone is a sex worker I respect their choice, all I meant was there are certain people who only care about money and will care nothing about you. Iā€™m sure many sex workers have very sweet hearts and are amazing people no doubt.

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LOL! You funny mon. :wink: No, you can only live on fried bologna sandwiches for so long.

I think the key with the ladies is to be confident, funny, and positive.

You have to really think about your good traits. And women dig a dude who doesnā€™t take himself too seriously.

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Yea man..it didnā€™t even sound like you were being mean lol :joy: I get what she was saying but I feel like you were saying a high quality woman wont accept shi t ā€¦

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First off, lower your standards.

This sounds like the beginning of a joke or something or an insult to women, but its really not.

Perhaps lower your expectations sounds better.

Most men have impossibly high expectations for women. Far beyond what they themselves meet. Most women are flawed just like men are. If you set your expectations too high you risk missing out on a woman that might be just right for you.

Flawed people should be able to find other flawed people and not expect perfection out of others that they themselves cant meet.

Finding the perfect man or women is not a realistic goal, but nonetheless many people have this standard.

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This sounds like my therapist lil she thinks I should not accept anything but maybe a girl with MI or issues herself .

I think having a girl that has issues is normal because we all do but if sheā€™s out cheating on you and treating you bad or vise versa then I feel like those standards are ok.

Its probably a bunch of diffrent measures of value for relationships. Funny thing is your opening line about the title sounding like the beginning of a joke is funny and true. Now that I think about it.

I think what poet said and you said are really the same argumentā€¦its a value based world.. to match with a woman you have to actually match. Either lower your standard or better yourself. Or do both lol

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Well, the flaw doesnt necessarily have to be mental illness or mental flaws. Maybe they arent the most attractive person in the world, maybe they arent as smart as you, maybe they dont have a job, maybe they are lazyā€¦I dont know. These are just examplesā€¦could be anythingā€¦

The main point being if you expect them to accept your schizophrenia and other flaws, you have to be willing to look past their flaws as well.

For example, my wife accepts my sz. She has Hydrocephalus(spelling?) and some balance issues. She depends quite a bit on me for driving, maintaining the house, cooking and various other things. She does the dishes and the laundry and helps to keep the house clean. Neither one of us is a Brad Pitt or Scarlett Johanson in the looks department. We both have flaws but we accept each other.

Many men wait around their whole lives hoping to catch a 28 year old cyndi crawford thats never going to come.

There are millions of people out there, both men and women, who are looking past each other because they are have too high of expectations.

Yes, I agree with you there. You dont need someone who is going to treat you badly.

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Hi @Signless

Its funny cos men like a attractive looking and relaxed/confident lady.

But i actually prefer the opposite.

Because i like the connection of being able to relate to someone like me.

Instead a handsome and relaxed dude has fallen on my lap. He also has a mild learning condition wheraes i hav schizophrenia.

It has taken us years to clik cos we are very different therefore.

And i dunno how to trust him. Idk if that is something u struggle with but i do.

I realised that maybe its possible to play these differences to our mutual advantage.

By learning how to become flexible, trusting, relaxed, and humble.

My point is that the person u dont expect to clik can indeed sometimes clik with time effort and patience.

But obviously, like u said constant abuse is a different story.

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So the girl i was talking to ripped my heart out of my chest and ate it lol

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Thats a really healthy way to see it. I remeber before ocd i could look pass my flaws and the flaws of other people. Now its not soo easy because kinda like voices my ocd attacks the crap out of what I fear the most.

Its definitely changed the way I see people. I went to the eye doctor and it was full of beautiful smart kind ladies and all I kept thinking about was any flaw I saw in them.

Girls who were like goddesses to me before MI are seen as lacking now. And im sometimes even harder on myself when im not in this weird defensive arrogance orientation.

I remeber peopleā€™s flaws sometimes were what made them attractive. Like poet said im gonna have to work on myself. Not just to match with a good woman but to be able to see the beauty in things again.

And yea @Zoe opposites definitely attract. The people i tend to get along with these days are usually pretty smart and im ..well a rock would probably feel intellectually superior :relieved_face:..oh wait :face_with_diagonal_mouth::sweat_smile: thats B.A.D.

Regardless I guess i will keep trying and find out one way or another if its in the cards long run. @SzSupportAdmin

I have to somehow look beyound all the fear and perceived let downs to see the good in the world again. My positivity is usually hope about some point in the future but the munk i follow says you can find the good ASAP rn in the NOW. Gonna keep trying..

And zoe.. when I was young I had a disability with understanding math.

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What happened?

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The one you were supposed to go on a date with?

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I canā€™t say itā€™s not pg13

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There will be no date. Iā€™m bordering on suicidal tbh Iā€™m really tired of meeting women who donā€™t give a ā– ā– ā– ā–  about me lol